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[From] Divorce is a good opportunity to teach your child to escape from misfortune
Roughly speaking
- Get hooked on From's philosophy.
- Being about to get divorced is unhappy for children. Divorce is better for your child's education.
- Adults who can't love.
From's philosophy is interesting
I'll start with the second installment.
Fromm's love is interesting.
This book is based on the act of loving, and gives powerful weapons to individuals trapped in loneliness in modern society.
People who have come to function as products and robots have diluted their understanding of love that religion once achieved.
Rather than fading understanding, adults in modern society continue to create distorted individuals who are unable to convey the technology of love to the next generation.
Not divorce will have a negative impact on your child
It is the negative impact on children that Fromm especially warns about the "false love" that prevails in modern society.
In particular, he sharply criticizes his tendency to project his own problems onto children.
People who can't find meaning in their own lives will instead try to find meaning in their children's lives. However, this will lead to failure in your own life, and not only that, but you will also have your child lead a wrong life.
It is said that because loving requires training in skills, children need to have experience in finding the answers themselves.
He also points out that families who don't divorce because of their children are harmful to children.
However, the atmosphere of tension and unhappiness that resonates in the "family gathering" has a much worse effect on children than a clear divorce.
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At the very least, by divorce from parents, children learn firsthand that if they make a decision with courage, they can put an end to an irresistible situation.
I personally agree with this too. The high level of independence of a child whose parents are divorced is remarkable.
Adults who can't love
Fromm cites the "false love" that is common in modern society.
Love as sexual satisfaction for each other, love as "teamwork" or love as a shelter from loneliness are both "normal" forms of disintegrated love in modern Western society, that is, sick love, a characteristic of modern society.
Now that modern society has become a consumer society, even love has become consumption, and we are now enjoying the temporary love by mistake for normal love.
On the other hand, what is love in a religious worldview?
In Christianity, the concept of neighbor love is presented. Moreover, this love for your neighbor is united with narcissism.
Love your neighbor like you
There is also the concept of unconditional love. From teaches that love for neighbors, which is expanded from self-love, is the ideal love, rather than love as a reward.
However, from not starting with love for your neighbor, he first encourages self-training. Healthy self-love creates love for your neighbor.
So how should we acquire the skills to cultivate and love self-love? Please read this book for more details.
Side note (recommended book section)
Recommended design books. Packed with tips for designs that you can use forever. I use it a lot too.
