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[From] To love
Roughly speaking
- Recommended books. To put it simply, I should have read it sooner.
- Three typical mistakes to love.
- Love is an active action and a technology. You need to learn.
Love is an unusual hit as a philosophical book
There are often recommended books that I don't read.
This book on "Love" was recommended by several people, but I have not prioritized economics or technology books and have not read them.
To put it simply, my past self was a mistake. I still need to learn deep love.
In fact, this "love" is an unusually popular philosophical book among women, and is often read, but on the other hand, I think men don't read it much.
This book is a relatively easy-to-read style for philosophical books, and is easy to understand the content, and I would recommend it as an introduction to philosophy.
Typical three mistakes to love
This time, I would like to introduce the main themes of this book: misunderstandings about human love and the meaning of loving.
Fromm points out that modern working adults have three fundamental misconceptions about love.
First of all, most people view the issue of love not as a problem of loving or the ability to love, but as a problem of being loved.
A misunderstanding among many people when thinking about love is that the question arises from "how to be loved" rather than "love."
People try to be tolerant of external charm, wealth, power, personality, and way of thinking in line with modern society's trends, because love is different from popularity and sex appeal.
The second premise at the root of the idea that there is nothing to learn in love is the belief that the problem of love is, that is, the problem of object and not ability.
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It's easy to love, but it's difficult to find someone to love or someone to be loved - that's how people think.
What makes a person attractive depends on the trends of the times, both physically and mentally. They try to find the desired person they have a crush on from the perspective of social values, just like they have a product in hand.
It confuses the experience of falling in love with the persistent state of being stuck in love.
People think that the state of being obsessed with each other is proof of the strength of love. However, this may simply indicate how lonely they have been up until now.
What it means to love
From reconsiders the reasons why love is necessary for humans from the myth of Adam and Eve. People have a fear of loneliness.
Adam and Eve ate "the fruit of the wisdom that knows the distinction between good and evil," refused to submit to God, and escaped from the primitive animal harmony with nature and became human.
And then they were "shameful to find out they were naked."
Why is shame born? This is not a stunning experience that comes from the fact that your genitals are completely visible.
Even though Adam and Eve realize that they are isolated, they are still strangers. I don't know we'll love each other yet.
Knowing that humans are isolated beings, they are not yet united by love. This is where shame comes from. This is where sin and anxiety arise.
Eventually, humans become plagued with anxiety about loneliness, and become addicted to sex addiction, alcohol and drug addiction, and the temporary state of excitement becomes a confusion of fear of loneliness.
However, Fromm says that knowing the techniques he loves allows him to learn how to essentially avoid loneliness. For more information, please see this book.
Side note (recommended book section)
Recommended design books. Packed with tips for designs that you can use forever. I use it a lot too.
